SOLACE: Soul + Grief
This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality. I hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side.
"I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises OR seek spiritual direction while grieving. I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings."
BACKGROUND
- Jesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint Ignatius
- Centro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent Retreat/
- Center for Loss & Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, CO
- California State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)
- Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education
- 19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius
- Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral Ministries
CONTACT ME: candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com with questions to be answered in future episodes.
SOLACE: Soul + Grief
Grief's Desert: Finding God in Lent
Grief and the Lenten season share profound similarities, inviting us to see Jesus as a companion in our desolation. We explore how Christ's 40-day retreat in the desert mirrors our grief journey—both experiences bringing us face-to-face with limitation, aloneness, and the search for meaning.
• The desolation of grief parallels Jesus' desert experience during Lent
• Jesus contemplated his limited time on earth, just as grief forces us to face mortality
• Ecclesiastes reminds us of God's constant presence
• Approaching grief as a shared journey rather than a solitary experience
As you listen, consider sending me your thoughts and questions on grief, both spiritual and practical, so we can walk this path together.
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You can reach us at: candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com.
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Thank you for watching. Welcome to this week's episode of Solace, soul Plus Grief. I'm Candee Lucas. We're glad you're here. The death of a loved one is a very difficult life transition and we hope we can answer some of your questions, help you find where God is moving in your life as you continue your grief journey, and remind you of the power of your faith and love for God. You're always welcome in our circle of healing, love and care.
Candee:As we enter the Lenten season, I am reminded that as we contemplate this period of Jesus' life in the desert, it calls to mind the desolation of our grief. It calls to mind the desolation of our grief, and so I offer this prayer Jesus, we are broken, so many of us, just broken by life. We seemed we thought we knew what was best, what would make our life okay. Invariably it didn't. We reached out to each other but were met with fear and indifference that was practically institutional in scope. Why? Why, jesus? We need you Every day and every night. We so need you. We need your arms around us 24-7. We need you that much. We cannot take a step without you, a breath without you. Hold us up. We need you to do that for us While you are holding us up. Who is holding you? Who? We followed you into the desert because you asked us to what we saw and witnessed there. We cannot say now we went for burnishment there. We cannot say now we went for burnishment. We came back with the retinas of our eyes burned out and shadowed into their reverse colors and shapes, blinded to the love and the need around us. And how equal they are two sides of one coin that you cannot see through but is invisible. That is how your love is solid, so solid. Yet when I hold it in my hand it disappears like a dandelion angel in a very pale breeze. Love us, we need you too. Amen.
Candee:The experience of grief during Lent can be a profound one. The church itself is on a 40-day retreat, as it were, examining its conscience, its choices, its relationship with God. It is a retreat along with our daily lives, and I should find it all that much harder to grieve during this period, but we should remember that it is during this period. But we should remember that it is during this period that Jesus contemplates his place on earth, his mission, his goals, his own dreams and the realization that his life on earth is limited. He is probably experiencing what Buddhists call the bardo, which is an in-between place, something between life and death, something between now and then, something between hope and desperation. He comes face to face with his aloneness, the solitary path that he must walk. Experiences the love of his fathers for him, yet knows the path will be a difficult one.
Candee:Ecclesiastes reminds us of the constancy of God's love. One generation goes, another comes, but the earth remains the same forever. The sun rises, the sun sets and glides back to where it rises, southward blowing, turning northward, ever turning, blows the wind On its rounds. The wind returns. All streams flow into the sea, yet the sea is never full To the place from which they flow. The streams flow back again. No man can ever state them. The eye never has enough of seeing, nor the ear enough of hearing. Only that shall happen, which has happened, only that occur, which has occurred. There is nothing new beneath the sun. So, while we may feel far removed from God's love, it is there, if we stop, if we are still, if we listen with our heart, if we breathe with him. So, as you accompany Jesus into the desert, strive to be his constant companion, as he strives to be your constant companion. Let your grief wash over the two of you. Let him help you carry that burden as you help him carry his. Revere the mutuality of this journey, and may you come out the other side burnished.
Candee:That concludes another episode of Solace. A new one drops every Friday. Please subscribe to us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Amazon. I'm Candee Lucas, your host, chaplain and spiritual director. Please contact us If you have questions or seek spiritual direction. Our contact information is in the show notes. Be gentle with yourselves. Travel with God. Vaya con Dios.
